10 cultural habits in the Netherlands that surprise expats
Moving to the Netherlands is an exciting adventure, but beyond the bikes and tulips, Dutch culture has its own unique quirks that often surprise newcomers. Here are 10 cultural habits that expats notice (and eventually grow to love!) when settling into Dutch life.
1. “Koffietijd” is sacred
Coffee isn’t just a drink here; it’s a daily ritual. The Dutch take their koffietijd (coffee time) seriously, often accompanied by a cookie or slice of cake. Don’t be surprised if a meeting or friendly visit starts with “Would you like some coffee?”
2. The famous birthday circle
At Dutch birthday parties, guests often sit in a circle and chat with everyone, not just the host. You’ll also be expected to congratulate everyone there (“Gefeliciteerd!”), even the birthday person’s family.
3. Direct communication is a virtue
The Dutch are known for being honest and straightforward. While this can feel blunt to some expats, it’s actually a sign of respect. They value clarity and appreciate when others speak openly too.
4. Biking is a way of life
From groceries to commuting, the bicycle is central to Dutch life. You’ll see everyone cycling, rain or shine, business suit or casual wear. Owning a good bike is almost as essential as having a house key.
5. Dinner starts early
In many countries, dinner starts around 8 PM, but in the Netherlands, 6 PM is perfectly normal. Families often eat together early and wind down for the evening.
6. Going Dutch (literally)
Splitting the bill is common practice. Whether it’s dinner with friends or a coffee date, everyone pays their share. It’s not about money; it’s about fairness and independence.
7. Open curtains, open culture
Many Dutch homes have wide, open windows with the curtains open for everyone to see in. It’s a sign of transparency and trust: “We have nothing to hide.” For some expats, it takes getting used to!
8. Planning ahead, even socially
Want to grab a coffee with a Dutch friend? Better schedule it in advance. Spontaneity isn’t always the norm, social calendars can fill up weeks ahead, and appointments are taken seriously.
9. Vacations are sacred too
When it’s holiday time, the Dutch truly switch off. Work emails go unanswered, and offices can be quiet for weeks in summer. Work-life balance is not just a concept here; it’s a priority.
10. The weather talk never ends
Whether it’s raining, sunny, or both in the same hour, the weather is always a safe (and popular) topic. You’ll soon find yourself checking Buienradar, the national weather app, just like the locals.
Bonus: Dutch habits at home
Some Dutch quirks show up inside the house, too:
- Shoes off? Not necessarily. Unlike in many countries, it's not a strict rule in Dutch homes. Ask your host.
- The cheese slicer (kaasschaaf) is in every Dutch kitchen. Thin slices only!
- Bread for lunch, every day. A sandwich with cheese or hagelslag (chocolate sprinkles) is a perfectly normal lunch, for adults too.
- Steep stairs. Many Dutch homes have narrow, steep staircases. Moving furniture in is an art, which is why we always ask about your stairwell before delivery.
- Waste separation. Paper, plastic, glass, organic waste and general waste often go in separate bins. Check your municipality's rules.
- Gezelligheid. The untranslatable Dutch word for cosy, convivial and comfortable. It's the goal of every Dutch living room, and hopefully of yours too.
Embrace the Dutch way of life
The Dutch may have their unique habits, but that’s what makes life here so authentic and charming. Once you understand the rhythm of Dutch culture, you’ll find it easy to feel at home. Quirks and all.
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